Planning a funeral or memorial service for someone who has just died, or for the future for yourself or somebody close to you, the decisions you make will be shaped by your life experiences, your relationship to the deceased, what the deceased wanted or what you desire for yourself after you die.
If a death has already occurred, you can contact a local funeral home or a cremation/burial service provider for advice. They can help you to arrange for the funeral and memorial service you desire; provide information and service options; explain the costs involved and help you obtain an official death certificates.
If a death occurs:-
1) Choose the form of disposition
It’s important to understand that a “funeral” involves two important functions:
• What to do with the deceased’s physical remains (the form of final disposition) – Burial or Cremation: Whether below ground in a cemetery plot/gravesite, or above ground in a mausoleum.
• How to honour, remember and even celebrate the life and memory of the person who died (the form of the funeral or memorial service) – What is the most meaningful way to say “goodbye”. Something that reflects the deceased’s life, personal, religious or spiritual belief . The funeral service could be in a place of worship, a funeral home, or public or private location for mourners to express their grief while comforting and supporting each other.
2) The wake or visitation
Another important decision you will need to make when planning a funeral service concerns the physical presence of the deceased. You can arrange a “traditional” funeral service that includes a wake/visitation beforehand with the embalmed body in an open cask
3) Make your wishes known in advance
If you are planning your own funeral or memorial service in advance, you should inform your family about your end-of-life wishes to make sure they know what you want. Ideally, you should provide a written record rather than relying upon a family member’s memory or keeping your plans on your computer.
If you’ve formally prearranged your funeral or memorial service with a provider, then you should keep those documents with your other important papers at home — and let your loved ones know of their existence and their location — so they have timely and easy access to them when necessary. This will remove the burden of making difficult decisions once death occurs